Finding ways to connect with our children can feel like a struggle at times.
If things are tough it might feel like the last thing you want to do is connect with your child. However, doing it will help to change what’s happening.
Sometimes our children don’t want to connect with us. It maybe that their early childhood experiences mean that connection is hard for them. Or, maybe they have hit the teenage years and therefore spending time with you is not high up on their list.
A few weeks ago I asked parents in my group how they connected with their children. They had loads of fabulous ideas which I thought I’d share with you. I’ve just picked out a selection at random.
- Listen to my child’s choice of music (even when I don’t like it) and talk to them about it
- Grabbing every moment my teenager appears to say something nice to them
- Send Gif’s, share meme’s, use messenger apps to connect and laugh together
- Put my phone away and focus on them
- Spend time with them doing something they love
- Take silly selfies together
- Go on a drive and let them choose where you go
- Find a series on tv and watch it together
- Smile at them
- Movie night
- Play games in the garden with them
- Do crafts together
- Cook together
- Talk about cars / whatever interests them
Lots of fabulous ideas there that I thought I’d share. I’m sure you have your own as well.
When we focus on connection, we start to change our relationships for the better. Our presence is raised with our children and our relationships improve. Our children learn that they are loved and are loveable. That for me, is the most important bit of all – making sure my son knows he is loved and loveable.
If you’re struggling to connect with your child, come and join us in the Connective Parenting Hub where I’ll help you to increase your connection and transform your family’s life.
It’s my monthly membership group, where you get unlimited access to me, a library of online resources, the opportunity to hear from other experts and to be part of a supportive community of parents. You can find all the details at www.sarahpfisher.com/connectiveparentinghub
