A reflective conversation is a conversation we’re having with our child to reflect with them on a situation that has happened, whether that be an escalation or something you can see they’re struggling with.
Topics: Triggers, de-escalation, violence & aggression, getting support
Probably the number one question from parents and carers – how do I manage meltdowns? Understanding your own and your child’s emotions and triggers, so you can respond differently and try to avoid things escalating into violence and aggression, is a great place to start.
Explore our resources for essential information on how to manage meltdowns, reduce violence and restore calm and become better equipped to deal with aggression, if and when it happens.
When I became a parent I used the 'traditional' methods of parenting of imposed consequences. Some of the imposed consequences I used were, time out, shouting, bribes, and anything else I could think of at the time. The problem is that whilst these approaches may appear to work in the moment, they don't stop the behaviours from reoccurring.
As a parent, I’m sure many of you have experienced those times when your children’s behaviour becomes really hard to manage. When we come at any situation from a perspective of connection rather than correction, it really changes how we manage absolutely everything. It’s a phenomenal way of thinking about things.
Do You Respond or React? I want to talk about how we can de-escalate situations quickly and how we can really change our responses in a very quick and easy way. This is one of the things that I don’t always get right – but it’s something that can make a big...
When we de-escalate situations and don’t use imposed consequences on our children, it can feel like we are 'letting them get away with it' and this is a conversation I've been having a lot this week. I can understand why that is. If that’s all you did I can see...
Does it feel like your child is going from 0 - 60 in 2.6 seconds? So often when I ask parents they say yes! At times it feels like my son does as well. It’s hard to manage when it feels like it's coming out of the blue. Have you ever had one of those days when...